Tips for Discussing the Transition to Assisted Living with a Person You Care For

Last updated 1 year ago

Senior man sitting with his daughter and grandson

When the elderly person you care for is showing signs that their ability to take care of their health and home is deteriorating, it may be time to have a conversation about assisted living. This conversation can be very difficult, but many older adults can get excited about their move if it is discussed in a positive, constructive manner. Here are some tips for successfully navigating your discussion.

Use Concrete Examples
If your family member refuses to acknowledge that they are struggling to maintain their health and a clean and functional home, you may want to be ready with several recent examples of specific tasks they struggle with or hazards you have observed.

Express Your Concerns
Use “I” statements to discuss your own emotions and concerns. Doing so will help you avoid sounding accusatory or disrespectful, and help your family member understand your perspective.

Emphasize the Positive
Some seniors, particularly those who live alone, find themselves isolated and bored in their homes. The idea of a senior social community and on-site activities may be quite appealing. They may also appreciate the idea of having meals, medication reminders, and cleaning services available. If they are concerned about falls in the shower or other possible household accidents, they may be comforted by the safety features available in assisted living communities.

Negotiate
If your family member resists the idea, try to convince them to at least visit a facility. Observing an attractive and clean residence with a friendly staff may completely shift their ideas about what senior living entails.

For more advice about having this tough but important conversation with a person you love, or to learn more about our assisted living residence, contact Whitcomb House. We are an assisted living residence, which offers both traditional and memory care programs. Call us today at (508) 634-2440 or visit our website to learn more about us.